Sometimes it feels like we’re standing in the middle of a tornado. Swirling around us at hyperkinetic speed are the things that we want for ourselves in our lives. We want a better job, or a better relationship, or to get into a good college or university. What tends to happen, then, is we focus on the one and only potential outcome that we think is best for us.
We tell ourselves, ‘This job would be perfect! It fits my skill set. It’s got great pay and benefits. I can’t think of any other job that would be as perfect for me as this one.’ And guess what happens next: we convince ourselves that if we don’t get this job, this one job that seems to be better than all the other jobs in the entire world, then we will have failed. Or, perhaps we tell ourselves, ‘This person I just met, they’re incredible and brilliant and stunning and I really think that we could be beautiful together! If it doesn’t work out, then maybe there’s something wrong with me.’
This mindset – the conviction that only one possibility is the right possibility for us – is a pitfall that can only lead to unease. Believing this makes us doubt ourselves. We become anxious that the only possibility that we’ve allowed ourselves could fail, and if it fails, we’re sunk. And we tell ourselves that we could never recover from that.
To release ourselves from this self-imprisonment, we must surrender our attachment to specific outcomes.
You may be thinking right now: that sounds like a scary thing to do. I want that better job. I want that better relationship. It’s right for me.
But what if it isn’t?
Sit with that for a moment. What if the one thing you feel is exactly right for you isn’t right for you, and something that you never even imagined possible is perfect for you? Surrendering our attachment to specific outcomes is about allowing those unforeseen positive prospects into our lives.
Let go!
By surrendering our attachment to specific outcomes, we open ourselves up to unexpected positive opportunities that may even be better than that one-and-only result we imagined for ourselves.
We allow for uncertainty. In fact, we embrace uncertainty.
Call it our Personal Uncertainty Principle – when we convince ourselves that unpredicted positive outcomes can come our way, and we don’t try to think of what those may be, we allow unpredictability to work for us, not against us.
When we use creative visualization to envision success and happiness in a broad-spectrum manner, instead of hitching it to only one possible cause, we can manifest unexpected prosperity in our lives.
Shed fear of the ambiguity of life. Learn to love that uncertainty.
Release your struggle – and discover what greatness is in store for you.